I think the thing people don’t realize with that bullshit “well not all guys are dangerous, you should give them a chance” or what the fuck ever is like
if i had a plate of cookies and i was like yeah, a few of them have laxatives in them and one’s got cyanide in there, BUT THEY’RE NOT ALL LIKE THAT
you’re probably not gonna take a fucking cookie
like if you have never lived on your own or experienced financial insecurity at all in your life like please refrain from injecting yourself in conversations on how the working poor should find ways to be more frugal like as if that’s not a constant aspect of their daily life
"When I was about 20 years old, I met an old pastor’s wife who told me that when she was young and had her first child, she didn’t believe in striking children, although spanking kids with a switch pulled from a tree was standard punishment at the time. But one day, when her son was four or five, he did something that she felt warranted a spanking–the first in his life. She told him that he would have to go outside himself and find a switch for her to hit him with.
The boy was gone a long time. And when he came back in, he was crying. He said to her, “Mama, I couldn’t find a switch, but here’s a rock that you can throw at me.”
All of a sudden the mother understood how the situation felt from the child’s point of view: that if my mother wants to hurt me, then it makes no difference what she does it with; she might as well do it with a stone.
And the mother took the boy into her lap and they both cried. Then she laid the rock on a shelf in the kitchen to remind herself forever: never violence. And that is something I think everyone should keep in mind. Because if violence begins in the nursery one can raise children into violence.”❞
I fucking hate it when people say the woman is stupid for staying with her abuser and it’d be so easy to leave.
NO IT ISN’T.
7 years later it’s still a possibility I consider. That 70% window doesn’t really close. No matter how far you move (3,000 miles, then another 1,000), or how different your life becomes. Staying in one place sometimes feels like a slowly accumulating weight.
I guess I never really thought about it that way before.
"The greatest threat to women is men. Do you know what the greatest threat to men is? Heart attacks."
Whoa, hold up there a minute. If you’re cutting your wrists after your boyfriend broke up with you again, THAT’S STILL SELF HARM. I don’t see how it suddenly isn’t just because you don’t approve of their reasons. Any attempts at injuring yourself is self harm even if you do it once. And it’s still really bad no matter how often it happens.
Bulimia IS making yourself puke AT ALL. It’s not normal to make yourself puke EVER. Chronic Bulimia is where you do it often. Plenty of bulimics don’t puke after every meal. You only have to force yourself to puke three times a week to be diagnosed. Edit: Some bulimics do not puke at all! The only rule for diagnosis is PURGING. Purging also is done through laxatives and does not always include self-induced vomiting. To be Bulimia, though, it has to be paired with binge eating.
Insomnia IS ANY DIFFICULTIES WITH SLEEPING. "Transient insomnia lasts for less than a week. It can be caused by another disorder, by changes in the sleep environment, by the timing of sleep, severe depression, or by stress." So when you’re stressed about a test and can’t get into a deep enough state of sleep or stay asleep, that is insomnia. Chronic Insomnia isn’t not sleeping for two nights but insomnia can be.
Schizophrenia is not seeing things when you’re high, but getting high too often can cause schizophrenia.
Someone who complains about a sudden switch when they’re depressed might really have MPD. Switches are often triggered as emotional responses to certain situations. No two people’s MPD behaves the same; patients display huge differences in number of “alters”, methods of switching between them and frequency of those switches.
Depression is ANY period of deep emotional low. “Depressed mood is not necessarily a psychiatric disorder.”CLINICAL DEPRESSION is the disease that causes a person to feel depressed with no known cause, though it can be linked to events in the patients life.
When someone complains about anxiety before a test it is not actually anxiety. But if their stress manifest as, say, that worry triggering you to worry about ridiculous situations such as leaving the car door open when you never would or having forgotten to turn off the stove, it is anxiety. No matter how often it happens. Anxiety is an EMOTIONAL STATE of worrying intensely about things unlikely to happen. When it becomes a psychological problem, it’s called General Anxiety Disorder. People can be Anxious and not have a disorder at all. It’s an emotion.
Check your facts before trying to control how people label their emotions. There are some good points here, but some of these are just awful or misinformed. Like how in the world is that self injury example NOT self injury?
When you make a ‘ladies are awesome!’ post completely comprised of white cishet women it makes me sad.
Also, on the Jennifer = Paige = Darach: I’m down. I’M SO DOWN. I support her and her life choices. I support her seducing Derek to “fuck him over” because HI HE FUCKED HER OVER FIRST. If this is a thing that happens, I will so be all “MAYBE YOU SHOULD HAVE SLOWED YOUR ROLL, DEREK. INFORMED CONSENT, DEREK. JFC, DEREK.”
For fuck’s sake.
there’s no such thing as fate.
#when you think about everything she’s been through and every choice she makes regardless#and you still bitch about her putting a knife to someone’s throat when they’re climbing in her window#i wonder if you really watch the show at all#because let’s say it was an alpha werewolf or someone who wanted to commit real harm#[casually points out Isaac has been that person at one point]#and she was ready for them and that’s what’s fantastic#if anything you should be embracing the fact that in a world where we’re constantly given female characters ~in distress#in a world where people are STILL shamed for enjoying strong female characters because somehow that makes them bitches#she doesn’t appreciate what so and so male character has done for her? or how he feels for her?#fuck that look at all the freaking awesome things she’s done for the entire group#think about the lives she’s saved and the cases she’s solved#she doesn’t owe anyone shit#she doesn’t owe Isaac anymore apologies and she wasn’t ABUSING HIM#jfc he was LURKING OUTSIDE HER BEDROOM WINDOW#CREEPER ON EVERY LEVEL OK#but that’s not the point you get; you see it as her attacking him?#well fuck me sideways because you’re missing the whole point#Allison Argent isn’t here to look after puppies or appreciate a fucking scarf#she’s not here to fall in love with Isaac or to love Scott from afar or whatever it is you want from her romance wise#she’s here to kick ass and take names and learn about her own strength#what you should really want for Allison as a character is what every teenage girl wants which is to find out who they are#discover your strengths and weaknesses and be there for your friends and be seen as someone strong#someone empowered#don’t even with your romantic agendas for this strong badass hunter princess ok? #thanks (via halesparkles)